Sammy Saturday: on amps and birthmoms

Trying out amps at the store and lost in thought/ Mama C and the Boys

Me: Why do you like to play the bass with an amp?*

Sam: Because it is really fun when you crank it up all the way to 100.

Me: What do you think about when you play music?

Sam: I get in my mode. I am thinking about going to play the bass loud. I’m good at music  not speaking about it.

Me: Sam, what is one thing you are wondering about our trip West in two weeks?

Sam: I am wondering if Tea is going to like me or not.

Me: What do you think the answer is to that?

Sam: Yes.

Me: Why?

Sam: Because she has always loved me.


Two weeks to go. And we’re only $400.00 from our goal, which I am certain we’re going to reach. We were buying snacks for our carry on bags today. Thank you to the most recent contribution of $25.00 from Ms. C. C. of Maine. Feeling tremendous support and confidence from all of you! I had a dream that I woke to a contribution from Sandra Bullock for $10,000. The universe clearly has big plans for us! THANK YOU SANDRA and all!

* For being so big and brave in the world, Sam earned his first amp. It’s a 40 watt machine I gather. And was fabricated some time in 1970 near as I can tell. It’s plenty loud for us.

Sammy Saturday: Wordless

Graduate of the instructional pool! Big pool is next!/ Mama C and the Boys

[if everyone who looked at that smile, voted once today for me here, I’d feel like he does! Thank you. The competition is heating up. I just hit my 100th vote-putting me in 13th place out of the top 25. Please keep those clicks coming. One vote a day. I’ve got to stay in the top 25 to secure on a spot on this prestigious list of best adoption bloggers]

Sammy Saturday: Catch this

catcher Sam/Mama C and the Boys

He says that he wants to be a catcher.

No one threw the ball home, during his first little league game today. But if they had, he would have been ready.

His second at bat, was the hardest line drive double any kindergarten player this side of the Milky Way hit this afternoon if you ask me.

I am so thrilled for his joy out there.

On the field I imagine that Sammy feels invincible. He is only unlike anyone else, because he is so naturally talented in hitting and throwing a ball. Now let’s give him something to catch!

He is one of the youngest kids on the field. When he first came up to bat, one his buddies yelled; “Sammy you know you are one of the best hitters we got! Go SAMMY!”

I’m so proud of you baby. So proud and so happy to have the opportunity to experience this kind of happiness being lived by my kid. My first born whackadoodle Grand Sam!

Sammy Saturday: Flash interview with #1 son

Sam when you look at this picture, can you tell me what you see.

Grass, field, goals, and kids.

Where are you going?

I am going to Florida.

Why Florida?

Because Florida has Disney World.

What are you best at in the world?


What would you like to be best at in the world?

Gymnastics. Continue reading “Sammy Saturday: Flash interview with #1 son”

Sammy Saturday: Final shot of the season

Sammy Swish!/Mama C and the Boys

Here is the letter Sam just wrote to his kindergarten and P.E. teacher, who both came to watch his final game. Sammy invited them on his own. It meant the world to him, and all of the kids on the court that their teachers were there:

Dear Mr. L, and Mrs. M,

How did you like the game? It was pretty good. I liked it because I did one hundred baskets. Getting to see you on the bleachers made me laugh. Thank you for coming to watch my game!!!!


Chocolate Lovers Fraternity

I love you when you let me lick the bowl/Mama C and the Boys


Did you save me any?/ Mama C and the Boys

My two favorites, enjoying our collective third.

And speaking of fraternity–one of my all time favorite people, let alone writers and transracial mama (of three) and wife to another one of my all time favorite people has a BLOG finally: Foreigner in Buckeye Nation. You can be there from the very first post, be one for the first ten loyal followers even.  From her header:

Moved my transracially-adoptive, mostly-Jewish, Heather-has-two-mommies family from Portland, Maine to Columbus, Ohio in August, 2010. Why? Well because … oh, it’s a long story. I mean, it could be a short story, but I’m not good at short stories. Really the point is: I’m trying to figure out where we landed.

And if you didn’t get a chance to yet (on account of me being so prolific today and yesterday) please stop back and read yesterday’s poetry post, and leave a line of your own. Don’t be intimidated by those who come before you (although I might have) and leave us a line.


Skating again

Game on!/ Mama C and the Boys

Dear Brian,*

Thank you for your letter. I understand the physical nature of the game.  I get that. I’m glad you understand that it can be a “negative experience” for young kids to see “the altercation” on Tuesday.  Yes, I look forward to coming back too, in a few years.


Mama C, Mom to an aspiring future hockey player

*Brian Petrovek is the CEO and Owner of the Portland Pirates hockey team. He wrote a letter in response to concerns I brought to his attention on Tuesday, March 22nd, 2011.

Pirate Sam says Sam/ Mama C and the Boys

Sammy Saturday: Linking to the Little Girl Loved Letter Campaign

Mr. Suave/ Mama C and the Boys

Reading the letter found here at My Brown Baby (MBB) , by Nick Chilles (Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist and author of many books)  has been a source of great reflection/peace/apprehension/inspiration for me as the mother of two young Black boys.

His letter was written in response to this  MBB piece:  “Gang Rape In Texas: When Will We Stop Sacrificing Girls In Defense of Black Boys,” In Denene’s words; “Nick was moved to pen this letter to the 11-year-old victim. I extend a special invitation to the mothers and fathers who’ve read this powerful prose to leave empowering and loving messages to and for this child…”

My response to this story is to a)print out the letter and read it over and over again. b) to read it to the boys when they are older and able to hear it. c) to open dialogue with Sam and Marcel about what it means to be a boy. What it means to be a girl. I want to know what messages they are getting already and how they are internalizing them. How they are reacting to, and trying on all those messages. Continue reading “Sammy Saturday: Linking to the Little Girl Loved Letter Campaign”

Sammy Saturday: Can we visit my first mom?

How do you say no to this?/Mama C and the Boys (2010)

Just like that. He overheard a conversation I was having with friends who are planning a trip to meet their son’s birth parents.  Later that night he asked; Mom can we go visit Tea soon?

Because of the conversation I had earlier that day I was already wondering the same question. I often think he has a touch of the mind reader in him though.

He was in the top bunk. He was looking at a picture of her, in a frame across from him on the wall.

Maybe is all I said.

Please? He replied.

I’d like that too. I answered, while looking him in the eye, and rubbing the back of head, standing on the edge of Marcel’s bed. Can I come too? Marcel asked from below. Continue reading “Sammy Saturday: Can we visit my first mom?”

Sammy Saturday: On Star Charts, Rango and Oatmeal

On Star Charts:

Me: Your teacher said removing the star chart seems to have made it easier for you to be your best YOU. Is that true?

Sam: Yup

Me: How come?

Sam: Because I didn’t have to be worried about it.

Me: Worried about what? What made you worry?

Sam: I felt like I was always being watched.

Mommy’s note: the star chart’s efficacy was called into question by all involved about a month ago. After a meeting, and research, and much thought it was determined that the star chart would be removed after February break. This has proven to be a fantastic choice.  Instead of saying to me “two-stars” or “four stars” when I picked him up this week, he said; “Mom I had on some serious elephant listening ears today”. And “Mom I know how to be me now.” This is not just about changes at school. The entire house has been in a sort of “logical consequences” boot camp for about three weeks. The results have been undeniable. Obviously this demands a much longer post. Just want you all to know we are in a great space, because of some very consistent shifts at home and in school.

On Rango:

Sam: I liked the cowboy, the lizard. I liked the snake kind of.  Did you see when they were walking underground and there was that big eye? That was the SNAKE!

Me: Is it for older kids? Or kids your age?

Sam: It is for us. I would see it again! Can we go today?

Mommy’s Note: the movie is heavy in the guns and physical violence department. It is full of literary references, and philosophical musings. Animated does not a child movie make!

I would imagine it would be a great moving to go see if you just finished reading Carlos Casteneda, or Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas perhaps? I did not do my homework on this one, and felt totally ashamed with myself that I was sitting in the theater watching this with my two sons. I get so sucked into any kids film that aren’t featuring all white kids, that I leaped too quickly here. Other thoughts welcome on the film! By the way, the snake at the end SCARED me. (Sammy’s note above about the snake eye is totally cool–I didn’t get what he saw–he is right I think.)  Overall message about believing in yourself, and finding your inner hero are great for the twelve and over set?

On Oatmeal:

Me: Sam why did you put that much milk in your oatmeal?

Sam: Mom! We are not all the same. Did you forget that?